Comments on: On Loving My Wife http://poserorprophet.wordpress.com/2008/09/08/on-loving-my-wife/ This, therefore, is the life abundant Fri, 13 Nov 2009 23:04:07 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: James http://poserorprophet.wordpress.com/2008/09/08/on-loving-my-wife/#comment-127 James Thu, 11 Sep 2008 13:33:11 +0000 http://poserorprophet.wordpress.com/?p=628#comment-127 Thanks Dan, yeah i guess that 1 timothy 3 can be taken out of context in terms of prefering our 'own' family rather than the family we have through Christ's blood. I guess we have to always who our mothers, brothers and sisters are and be able to lay our lives down for them just as God calls us to do. we're gonna be in Newcastle which is 2 hrs north of sydney... yeah brisbane is quite the distance away from newcastle... though i'd still love to connect w/ any of your former professors and mentors. hey where in australia did you go for your honeymoon? Ceasar Thanks Dan,

yeah i guess that 1 timothy 3 can be taken out of context in terms of prefering our ‘own’ family rather than the family we have through Christ’s blood. I guess we have to always who our mothers, brothers and sisters are and be able to lay our lives down for them just as God calls us to do.

we’re gonna be in Newcastle which is 2 hrs north of sydney… yeah brisbane is quite the distance away from newcastle… though i’d still love to connect w/ any of your former professors and mentors.

hey where in australia did you go for your honeymoon?

Ceasar

]]> By: poserorprophet http://poserorprophet.wordpress.com/2008/09/08/on-loving-my-wife/#comment-123 poserorprophet Wed, 10 Sep 2008 17:09:47 +0000 http://poserorprophet.wordpress.com/?p=628#comment-123 <b>Brent & James</b>: I guess there are two sides to this family picture. Generally, I have stressed one side: the need to not become absorbed in our own biological families at the expense of the poor and needy around us (as if the ties created by our own blood-lines are somehow more significant than the ties created by the blood of Christ!). I often think that this form of family-love is just an extension of self-love -- I love my family because they are <i>mine</i> (and others be damned). Thus, I have regularly stressed that loving our families means teaching them the significance of prioritising others. However, the other side, which I am only really beginning to appreciate recently, is the side I expressed in this post. This is the side that teaches us that if we are not laying down our lives for the family with whom we live, then chances are that we're only faking it, or operating with crummy motives, when we say that we are laying down our lives for anybody else. Anyway, just some rambling thoughts that came to mind after reading your comments. Peace out, and congrats on the upcoming marriage James! We're in Australia will you be going, because if you go to Brisbane, I'd like to connect you with one of my former professors and mentors. Brent & James:

I guess there are two sides to this family picture. Generally, I have stressed one side: the need to not become absorbed in our own biological families at the expense of the poor and needy around us (as if the ties created by our own blood-lines are somehow more significant than the ties created by the blood of Christ!). I often think that this form of family-love is just an extension of self-love — I love my family because they are mine (and others be damned). Thus, I have regularly stressed that loving our families means teaching them the significance of prioritising others.

However, the other side, which I am only really beginning to appreciate recently, is the side I expressed in this post. This is the side that teaches us that if we are not laying down our lives for the family with whom we live, then chances are that we’re only faking it, or operating with crummy motives, when we say that we are laying down our lives for anybody else.

Anyway, just some rambling thoughts that came to mind after reading your comments.

Peace out, and congrats on the upcoming marriage James! We’re in Australia will you be going, because if you go to Brisbane, I’d like to connect you with one of my former professors and mentors.

]]> By: James http://poserorprophet.wordpress.com/2008/09/08/on-loving-my-wife/#comment-120 James Tue, 09 Sep 2008 22:37:52 +0000 http://poserorprophet.wordpress.com/?p=628#comment-120 beautiful post Dan, thanks for sharing all the things you're learning and experiencing. and congratulations!!! i guess that wombat jr. or wombatina is cookin' away in the oven... :) that's a beautiful quote by Hauerwas.. and it is so true.. i've been wondering about the simlar things as in 1 Cor. 7 lately since i'm about to get married and what does it mean to follow Christ w/ as a married couple... but i guess that if we can't even take care of our own family, how are we suppose to take care of God's people? (1 timothy 3:5) to hear your excitement in journeying w/ your wife and soon to be a family, gets me excited to start my own journey w/ my fiancee as well. all the best w/ the baby!! Much Love, Ceasar beautiful post Dan,

thanks for sharing all the things you’re learning and experiencing.

and congratulations!!! i guess that wombat jr. or wombatina is cookin’ away in the oven… :)

that’s a beautiful quote by Hauerwas.. and it is so true..

i’ve been wondering about the simlar things as in 1 Cor. 7 lately since i’m about to get married and what does it mean to follow Christ w/ as a married couple… but i guess that if we can’t even take care of our own family, how are we suppose to take care of God’s people? (1 timothy 3:5)

to hear your excitement in journeying w/ your wife and soon to be a family, gets me excited to start my own journey w/ my fiancee as well.

all the best w/ the baby!!

Much Love,

Ceasar

]]> By: jude http://poserorprophet.wordpress.com/2008/09/08/on-loving-my-wife/#comment-112 jude Tue, 09 Sep 2008 14:35:49 +0000 http://poserorprophet.wordpress.com/?p=628#comment-112 oh...and i love the pic of you 2 above!! oh…and i love the pic of you 2 above!!

]]> By: jude http://poserorprophet.wordpress.com/2008/09/08/on-loving-my-wife/#comment-111 jude Tue, 09 Sep 2008 14:35:27 +0000 http://poserorprophet.wordpress.com/?p=628#comment-111 dan - thanks for sharing this. love it. what a beautiful post and a beautiful lesson to learn. love you and mel lots and am very excited to welcome your child into the world soon! love, jude dan – thanks for sharing this. love it. what a beautiful post and a beautiful lesson to learn. love you and mel lots and am very excited to welcome your child into the world soon!
love,
jude

]]> By: Brent http://poserorprophet.wordpress.com/2008/09/08/on-loving-my-wife/#comment-110 Brent Tue, 09 Sep 2008 13:51:33 +0000 http://poserorprophet.wordpress.com/?p=628#comment-110 Thanks for this, Dan. It is helpful. You describe one of my primary struggles: I love my family more than anything, but I admit that I do sometimes feel resentful for the ways that they seem to limit the degree to which I can live the life I think Christ calls us to. When you have kids, this gets monumentally more acute. Two things that help me: (1) isolation and prayer - these resentful feelings tend to come in waves for me and the best thing is just to get away for an hour and pray or rest in silence. Often I just need to get some peace. (2) talking with my wife openly about the things I think Christ calls us to. She often doesn't agree with me, so seeing her side of things helps me be less convinced about what I think are obvious consequences of our Christian faith and it softens my heart toward her. Congrats on the baby-to-be. In January, EVERYTHING is gonna change :) Thanks for this, Dan. It is helpful. You describe one of my primary struggles: I love my family more than anything, but I admit that I do sometimes feel resentful for the ways that they seem to limit the degree to which I can live the life I think Christ calls us to. When you have kids, this gets monumentally more acute. Two things that help me: (1) isolation and prayer – these resentful feelings tend to come in waves for me and the best thing is just to get away for an hour and pray or rest in silence. Often I just need to get some peace. (2) talking with my wife openly about the things I think Christ calls us to. She often doesn’t agree with me, so seeing her side of things helps me be less convinced about what I think are obvious consequences of our Christian faith and it softens my heart toward her.

Congrats on the baby-to-be. In January, EVERYTHING is gonna change :)

]]> By: Liz http://poserorprophet.wordpress.com/2008/09/08/on-loving-my-wife/#comment-109 Liz Tue, 09 Sep 2008 05:07:34 +0000 http://poserorprophet.wordpress.com/?p=628#comment-109 Congratulation on starting a family (well, larger than just you and your wife!) and for coming up on your 1.5 years together! I'll be married for a year on the fifteenth excitingly enough. <i>You always marry the wrong person… love does not create marriage; rather marriage provides a good training ground to teach us what love involves.</i> That is a great quote! I am glad to have read it because I think it better states what I'm always trying to explain to people about being married, haha! Congratulation on starting a family (well, larger than just you and your wife!) and for coming up on your 1.5 years together! I’ll be married for a year on the fifteenth excitingly enough.

You always marry the wrong person… love does not create marriage; rather marriage provides a good training ground to teach us what love involves.
That is a great quote! I am glad to have read it because I think it better states what I’m always trying to explain to people about being married, haha!

]]> By: Andrea http://poserorprophet.wordpress.com/2008/09/08/on-loving-my-wife/#comment-104 Andrea Mon, 08 Sep 2008 16:33:20 +0000 http://poserorprophet.wordpress.com/?p=628#comment-104 beautiful reflections...and helpful to another who is trying to figure out what it means to love my spouse well. from a fellow geek who owns her own BAS, ajt beautiful reflections…and helpful to another who is trying to figure out what it means to love my spouse well.

from a fellow geek who owns her own BAS,

ajt

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